Photo: Doug Silsbee

Epilogue

"I'm gonna find me a daemon in a dark dark wood. 

You can't come with me, I wish you could."

 

From Take a little Walk, by Gregory Hoskins

 

Although in one sense this project had a natural ending with Doug's death, we also found that the arc of the story—and of the inquiry—wanted to come full circle with two conversations that took place after Doug died. These two conversations are offered below: one with Rob and Lauren, and one with Rob, Lauren, and Doug's wife, Walker. 

 

These conversations are invitations into a different space than the project's primary focus, dialogues between Doug, Rob, and Lauren. They are not edited, due to their conversational and naturally meandering quality. 

Rob and Lauren — August 29, 2018

0:00 - Learning of Doug’s death

 

7:05 - Rob’s experience after his own death

 

16:40 - Talking about the experience of dying; and not talking about it. 

 

20:25 - The weird paradox of life after death

 

22:48 - What was it like to be alive again?

 

38:40 - On our last conversation with Doug

40:05 - On goodbyes

 

42:00 - The intimacy of goodbye and turning away from goodbye

 

48:27 - Denial 

 

53:30 - Love

 

56:40 - Gratitude 

 

1:00:32 - Favorite things about Doug

Walker, Rob & Lauren — September 30, 2018

3:20 - Doug's dying process

20:33 - This is easier than I thought it would be

23:33 - Allowing what comes up

24:45 - Grief

26:20 - Celebration of life

28:18 - Cocoon of grief

30:27 - Learning from your transparency

32:28 - Death opens us up

38:58 - Masterful dying

40:00 - Gratitude

Questions to consider on your own

What is the legacy of your life?

What is most significant for you to give to others?

What does contemplating the end of your life inspire in you?

How are endings creating new possibilities in your life?

© 2023 by Lauren Tenney & Rob McNamara